Bob Vila Radio: Surviving a Remodel

By Sarah Monzon & Bob Vila | Updated Aug 21, 2012 12:46 AM

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While they’re always inconvenient, major remodeling projects can also become a real strain on your relationship if you let them. But there are ways to make sure you’re just gutting the kitchen, not your marriage.

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Listen to BOB VILA ON SURVIVING A REMODEL, or read text below:

First, never assume your spouse knows what you expect the family room to look like or how big the deck should be without discussing it first.  Talk about your expectations for the project, and your budget, thoroughly and often.

Even the healthiest relationships are challenged when a contractor comes into the house and a third person enters the territory. Avoid what we call triangulation by making decisions as a team and conveying them clearly to your contractor.

Don’t feel you have to compromise on everything: if one of you chooses the paint color and the other chooses the light fixtures, you can avoid a lot of tension.

If you still can’t agree or the project is beyond your skill set, don’t hesitate to hire a pro.  An architect or interior designer can offer solutions you may not have thought of.

Bob Vila Radio is a newly launched daily radio spot carried on more than 60 stations around the country (and growing). You can get your daily dose here, by listening to—or reading—Bob’s 60-second home improvement radio tip of the day.

For more on remodeling, consider:

Settling Disputes with Your Contractor
Home Building Projects Estimating Checklist
How To: Speak the Language of Design